“When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.” This phrase rings true as we dissect the uproar surrounding her leaked audio. The feminist queen is now in the spotlight for allegedly stealing a married man. But let’s pause. Instead of clutching pearls or sharpening pitchforks, let’s take a moment to ask—why do we see her actions as theft? What if Sheebah isn’t the villain but a mirror reflecting truths we’d rather ignore?
Here are ten reasons why, in my opinion, she isn’t wrong—and why her bold moves challenge Uganda’s entrenched gender hypocrisies.
1. High-value women deserve high-value men.
Ugandan men, let’s face it, have a branding problem. Many are boys masquerading in trousers. Responsibility? Rare. Emotional maturity? Scarce. High-value men, who provide stability and partnership, are few and far between. For women like her—driven, independent, and at the pinnacle of their careers—what’s wrong with claiming the best? Survival of the fittest isn’t just for nature documentaries.
2. Sheebah is a “karma” woman.
Her words in the leaked audio weren’t malicious; they were considerate. She admired the first wife. She saw beauty in the family and wanted to be part of it. It’s unconventional, yes. But bad faith? Hardly. Sheebah even sought permission—albeit indirectly. This isn’t stealing; this is strategic integration.
3. Opinions can evolve.
Sheebah once said she’d never fight for a man. But do we expect her to tattoo those words on her skin? People change, and growth isn’t linear. Today’s “I’d never” can transform into tomorrow’s “why not?” Ugandans are holding her to impossible standards. She’s not frozen in time; neither should our understanding of her be.
4. Ugandans asked for this.
Before her musical battle with Cindy, people mocked Sheebah for not having a man. “Who even married you?” was the subtext of countless social media jabs. Now that she’s shown she can claim what she wants, the same crowd is clutching their rosaries. Hypocrisy much?
5. It’s 2024. Polygamy and polyamory exist.
Let’s not pretend Ugandans don’t understand shared relationships. Historically, polygamy is deeply ingrained in our culture. Modernity doesn’t erase this heritage. If the first wife doesn’t object, why are we? Ugandans need to unlearn their “assistant Jesus” tendencies and let consenting adults live their lives.
6. She exposed the double standards in feminism.
Sheebah’s story sparks a critical conversation: what does feminism look like in Uganda? Western narratives prioritize independence, but African feminism thrives in communal and sometimes unconventional contexts. If Sheebah’s decision fulfills her desires while maintaining respect, isn’t that her brand of feminism?
7. Women are not saints—and that’s okay.
Society glorifies women who endure silently, sacrificing their happiness for the sake of appearances. Sheebah refuses this mold. Her actions remind us that women are human, capable of selfishness, ambition, and audacity. Isn’t that the feminist dream?
8. She sets her own rules.
Sheebah’s life is a masterclass in self-definition. She built her career against odds, owns her success unapologetically, and now makes personal choices with the same boldness. Why should this be any different?
9. The first wife is not a victim.
By Sheebah’s own admission, the first wife is an “amazing human.” If she welcomes Sheebah into their family—or tolerates her presence—who are we to object? People create relationships that suit their unique dynamics. We’re outsiders in a story we don’t fully understand.
10. She’s rewriting the narrative.
Sheebah challenges the age-old stereotype of women fighting each other over men. Instead of competition, she advocates coexistence. Her approach is messy, yes, but also revolutionary.
Final Thoughts
Ugandans love outrage, especially when it involves women bending traditional norms. Sheebah Karungi’s story is no different. But before we throw stones, let’s consider her actions through a wider lens. She’s navigating relationships on her terms, embracing evolution, and forcing us to question societal expectations.
Perhaps the real question isn’t whether Sheebah was right or wrong to “steal” a husband. It’s why we’re so uncomfortable seeing a woman claim her power so unapologetically.
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- Neyanziza
